Lynn Gilliard is the author of a popular relationship guide entitled Let Him Chase YOU. Relationships don’t have to be hard - it could all be so simple. So stop stressing, stop fighting and stop holding onto stuff from the past. This goes for romantic unions as well as relationships with friends and family members. I learned that everything doesn’t always go according to a perfect rule book - sometimes you have to just relax and follow your intuition. I finally learned that I had to relinquish the need to control every little thing and let things happen as they will. When we hold on tightly to resentments and past experiences, it holds us back from attracting the right people into our lives. I am willing to release a situation without getting upset or feeling slighted and I don’t drag my issues from one dating experience into another. She is a woman who has learned to relax, relate, release.
I can relate to men better because I seek to understand them, just as I would expect from them, instead of judging them.Īnd I now fully subscribe to the idea that if it’s meant to be, IT WILL BE. Whitley Gilberts voice is grating as she cascades down the stairs of her new dormitory in a. I no longer have a problem getting dates from quality men and having fun experiences with them. Wednesday, I came home and had an impromtu gathering of friends at my place. I walked on the beach, had brunch with a friend, hiked Runyon Canyon, and went to the movies - RELAX. Twenty-two years later, those words can describe my week. I don’t see the point in worrying or stressing about men and relationships, so it all just comes so easily and naturally to me. Whitley Gilbert said that on A Different World in 1987. Now I am so much more relaxed about dating. I think that a lot of my control issues relating to men stemmed from bad experiences with guys in the past or fear of looking like a fool - I guess to the people around me especially my friends and family. I was so sensitive to any minor slight! It was all about control (or fear of not having any). Relax, relate, release is the perfect mantra to start off new beginnings. In my book Survive, Live or Thrive?I tell the story of a guy who jokingly mentioned that I had a “little mustache” on a date so I never called him again. Never mind that he might be tied up at work or otherwise distracted. For instance, if a guy didn’t respond to my texts right away I’d write him off immediately. If the guy did one thing I didn’t like, I would just end contact immediately.
The title of this polish came from a chant Whitley was doing a therapy. I used to be so particular and structured about how my relationship or dating experience would go. Relax, Relate, Release is based off the character from the show Whitley Gilbert. The therapist told her to repeat the following line over and over: Relax, Relate, Release! Whitley was wound up over something and struggling for control. In it, the main character Whitley Gilbert (played by actress Jasmine Guy) was in a counseling session with a therapist played by actress Debbie Allen. There was a classic scene in one of my favorite television shows from the 90s called It’s a Different World.
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